How To Pick Up Women

I found a nice article in on The Observer's website the other day about PUAs - Pick Up Artists. Men who study techniques in order to pick up women. I just love the way that a guy reading an article in a magazine about picking up women is sad, but if you charge him $2,500 and tell him it's a secret club... Woo, they're in!

In addition:

"The teeth, along with the Lasik eye surgery, shaved head, defined goatee, tan and subtle extra inches on his boots all came to him on the orders of Mystery, the world's greatest seduction master, and Strauss's mentor when it came to writing his latest book, The Game, in which he penetrates the secret world of the modern pick-up artist, or PUA."

Ah, the secret world. So FastSeduction.com is a secret world now, is it? Hmm... I suppose it did originate from Usenet. But it's a great guide to developing confidence and teaching yourself to stop acting like a wuss. Sure, you stat off faking it but as with everything, once you succeed a couple of times, you start believing in yourself and a lot of it becomes real and second-nature.
I'm all for this kind of thing. Anything that means I don't get hit on by losers who wobble up drunk to me going "Wow, you're really deep. I can tell coz I've been watching you and you have this faraway gaze that shows you think deeply about things"

Uh-huh. Or maybe I was just bored. (This actually happened to me in a bar. I was bored.) And for god's sake, don't tell a girl you've been watching her unless it's in a sentence like "You're so beautiful - I couldn't take my eyes off you" Otherwise, it's just creepy. I know you could argue that it's shallow to accept the compliment when it's about beauty, but come on! "You're deep"? The guy doesn't even know me!

Getting back to the point: The article goes on to say

" Techniques such as negging and peacocking have always existed, but this is the first time the alphabet of male seduction has been painstakingly translated and written down."

No it's not. See previous link. Also, please pass it round to all your male friends. Although if their workplace is as draconian as mine (mmm... censorship), they'll only be able to access it at home. My point is, I like being fooled into thinking I have a connection with someone - isn't that what all new relationships are about? You get that fantastic little thrill of having fun with someone new (note to bf: not looking for someone new, but remember howmuch fun it was when we first started flirting?) and talking to someone projecting faked confidence is much better than missing out on a fantastic guy because he's too shit-scared to say anything more then "Uh... hi" Or even worse, too insecure to avoid dropping himself into the "Friends" zone. Yes, the dreaded LJBF.

But yes, as long as you follow the cardinal rule "'Always Leave Them Better Than You Found Them" then there's nothing wrong with using a few techniques to pull women. Making us feel like the greatest girl in the world, then sneaking out without a word in the middle of the night - that's shitty. At least treat us with respect and talk to us over breakfast. We like being with a guy who makes us feel good about ourselves. So go! Learn techniques! Spread the word! :)

[Quick caveat: Don't take everything on fastseduction.com as gospel truth. We don't all want guys to treat us like crap and if we call you on manipulative behaviour, that does not make us bitches. Just keep us guessing a little. Also, just like you, sometimes we do lose phone numbers or we're just too shy to call. Use your own discretion coz some of those rules are a little harder and faster than reality. Also, for long-term happiness, there's absolutely nothing wrong with oneitis. Unless she's not interested - in that case, you're rapidly sliding back to AFC-land and need to go out and get some #-closes quick.]